Feminine wisdom for
the menstrual cycle
Spiritual Messages for Women
Feminine wisdom for the menstrual cycle
By Miranda Gray
First published by OSULE, s. r. o., 2012.
Published in the Czech Republic.
Text copyright © Miranda Gray, 2012
Publishing copyright © OSULE, s. r. o., 2012
All rights reserved.
Editors: Richard Gray, Dana-Sofie Šlancarová
Design: Pavel Hrych, www.logofogo.cz
Cover design and illustrations: Lenka Blažejová, www.blazejova.cz
Printed by: Jiří Kylar, email@example.com
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www.osule.com / www.mesicvnas.cz / www.cyclicwomen.com
I would like to give heartfelt thanks to Dana-Sofie Šlancarová for all
her help, energy and enthusiasm in giving life to this book. Without
her, these messages would still be on my computer!
I would also like to thank my husband for his continuing help and
support in all my work, as well as all the amazing women around the
world who are sharing their spiritual paths with me in the Worldwide
This book is a guide to remembering that you are female – that you
were created to dance with the Goddess in a close embrace and
to create your dreams with her help. It is a guide to remembering
that you embody the Divine Feminine and that your path is to heal
and nurture both yourself and the world. Reading the messages in
this book throughout the month will awaken a living, intimate and
beautiful relationship with the Divine Feminine. It will create a life of
beauty, purpose, inspiration and creativity.
Ordinary relationships flow and change with time, and those that last
do so because lying at the core is love and acceptance. To experience
a lasting relationship with the Divine Feminine we need to accept that
she not only designed us to change but also designed our relationship
with her to change. We simply need to learn, welcome and love these
changes in order to bring her into our everyday lives.
The messages in the following pages will help you to love yourself,
to accept your changing nature and to learn to partner the Divine
Feminine in an exciting dance that changes tempo and direction as
you follow the labyrinth path. When you feel disconnected from your
divine dance partner, the messages are there to help you to reconnect
and let go to allow her to support and lead you. Then you can explore
and dazzle the world in many beautiful ways as you express the Divine
Feminine and your relationship with her in your life and in the world
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This book is the result of a heartfelt cry to try to understand how
we can experience the loving presence of the Divine when a‘one
size fits all’ spiritual approach doesn’t seem to work for us. Spiritual
techniques that brought us close to the Divine one week seem to fail
us the next. We find ourselves asking: Why doesn’t the prayer that
worked last week bring me the same feeling of connection and calm
today? Why doesn’t the blessing that opened me to Divine love and
peace last week work for me this week? Why does the ritual or service
that expressed my loving awareness of the presence of the Divine last
week feel like a detached routine now?
This cry from the heart, a wish to experience and live in a relationship
with a loving Divine presence that is engaged with us, that is
attentive, accepting, supporting, restoring, and willing to co-create
our lives with us, is strong. It calls from a hollowness within, a sense of
something missing. It comes from a misunderstanding of ourselves,
a misunderstanding of female spirituality and a misunderstanding of
our natural relationship with the Divine.
As women, our spirituality is different to that of men. The masculine
spiritual approach fails us because we do not think, feel or experience
the world, ourselves or the Divine as men do. And it’s within this
knowledge that we hold a beautiful secret:
Our spirituality changes as we change – whether it’s through life,
through the seasons, through the lunar cycle, or most particularly
through our monthly menstrual cycle.
Our relationship with the Divine changes as we change. Instead of
perceiving our spirituality and our awareness of Divine love as having
only one form and one approach, we can instead see it as a changing
expression. Just as we can still dance with the same partner when the
music changes from a waltz to a tango, we can still stay connected
to the Divine throughout our own changes. Once we realize this,
we are able to create a wonderfully vibrant, fulfilling and interactive
dance with the Divine Feminine. We fall in love with her, and in our
complete acceptance of her we experience self-acceptance, self-worth,
self-love, a sense of belonging, and the ability to actively live in tune
with who we are truly meant to be.
The gentle and engaging messages in this book are written to speak
directly to your changing self, to help you build a conscious awareness
of the presence of the Divine Feminine, and to create your dreams
in tune with her. The language of these messages is non-specific and
the term ‘Goddess’ can be changed to any goddess name or title
that resonates for you. You may wish to change the name you use
depending on the section. For example: Maiden (Action phase),
Mother (Heart phase), Enchantress (Revealing phase) and Crone
(Being phase), or Bright Maiden, Bright Mother, Dark Maiden and
Dark Mother, if you wish to honour the Moon phases.
The messages can be dipped into each day for guidance, read in
sequence, or used in association with the seasons, lunar cycle or stages
There is however a powerful way for cyclic women – women who
experience a menstrual cycle – to use the messages, one which reflects
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the heartfelt cry. It is a journey that takes us from everyday awareness
to deep within, and then out again into the light of the world – it
is the labyrinth path. On this path the messages hold your hand,
and guide you through your cycle and its phases of changing energy,
emotions, needs and desires. The messages offer ways to heal the
disconnection with your ‘true self’ – the Divine Feminine – in each
phase. Each message is designed to connect you with the Divine
Feminine and to help make the relationship with her an abiding part
of your everyday life.
The labyrinth path
The four female levels of awareness
This is a book of messages for women – not because the messages
cannot be used by men, but because they are structured in such a way
as to reflect our uniquely female spirituality.
As cyclic women we experience life from a cycle of four different
levels of awareness. How we view the world around us, how we think
about our place and purpose in it, and how we regard our self depends
on the dominant level of awareness we are experiencing at the time.
We are very familiar with the first level of awareness, which involves
thoughts, words, reasoning, structure, action and goals. This is our
Below this level lie our feelings and emotional responses. How we feel
is more important than logic, other people’s needs are more important
than our own, and our natural outlook is to care and nurture and
to connect with others. We also experience practical creativity,
expressing it in manifesting and creating form in the world. This is our
‘Feeling mind’ perception. These two levels of awareness are the ones
we are usually most comfortable with and tend to see as ‘normal’.
But below the ‘Feeling mind’ lies the ‘Subconscious mind’, that
aspect of us that stores all the information our ‘Thinking mind’ is
unable to handle. In this awareness we have access to our deeper
levels, enabling us to make connections, to be inspired and
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experience ‘Eureka!’ moments, and to understand without prior
knowledge. We also connect to our unfulfilled needs and desires, our
hidden away memories and feelings, and the beliefs that shape how
we react and behave.
And finally, our deepest level of awareness holds our connection to
the Whole, where we know completeness. It is a place of surrender,
of stillness, of peace and simply being. This is the level of our ‘Soul
mind’, of truth and of our deepest purpose and knowing.
The messages in this book are sectioned into these four levels of
awareness and are designed to speak to the energies and needs of
these levels within you. The messages are written to help you to
acknowledge these energies and enhance the perception of each level,
to remove resistance, meet the challenges, and create a loving, flowing
and creative relationship with the Divine Feminine.
Women’s secret spirituality
The most influential impact on women’s relationship with the Divine
is omitted from most spiritual approaches simply because we don’t
look for it.
Our natural spirituality is linked to our menstrual cycles.
For most of our adult life we experience a monthly menstrual cycle
consisting of four phases, each of which is dominated by one of the
four levels of awareness.
A journey through our menstrual cycle is actually a journey through
the pre-ovulation phase perception of the ‘Thinking mind’ driving
us towards action, through the ovulation phase of the ‘Feeling mind’
where we perceive from the heart, through the pre-menstrual phase of
the ‘Subconscious mind’ revealing our inner world, to the menstrual
phase of the ‘Soul mind’ and deep inner knowing.
Our cycle is a repeating labyrinth path that takes us down the steps
from light into the Underworld, from consciousness to soul level, from
summer to winter, from full moon to dark moon, and from head to
womb, and then guides us back out again. The Heart and Knowing phases,
like the summer and winter, are the pivots of the cycle, and the Action
and Revealing phases, like the spring and autumn, are times of change.
It’s often said that in order to change the world we need to change
how we think; but for women, we naturally think differently in each
phase, and so our world changes with our phase. In each phase, in
each level of awareness, we experience a different relationship with
the Divine Feminine and a distinctive natural spiritual approach,
need and expression.
In our pre-ovulation phase our spirituality can be focused – through
the ‘Thinking mind’ – on our own path, our goals, ideals and
questing. In our ovulation phase our spirituality can be dominated
by the ‘Feeling mind’, and we can become the nurturing hands of
the Goddess, making connections, caring, and taking love into the
community. As we become pre-menstrual our spirituality can become
more instinctive and inspirational, our awareness of the spiritual
dimension is stronger and we can be drawn towards the magic as our
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spiritual expression. Finally, with menstruation comes a deep oneness
and peace. It brings a spirituality that needs no answers, no goals, and
no actions because we know that we are simply everything.
This cyclic nature and its journey through the different levels of
awareness affect our interaction, expression and perception of the
loving presence of the Divine Feminine.
What works for us – as spiritual expressions of devotion,
connection and love – changes. The needs we want fulfilled and
our resistance to a trusting and surrendered relationship with the
Divine Feminine also change.
We were created female not to have a single relationship with the
Divine but to have one that flows through four expressions. Where
we go wrong is to expect one single relationship, making us wonder
why we cannot create a constant awareness of a personal and loving
The answer to the heartfelt cry is simple: There is nothing wrong with
us – we are simply expecting ourselves to dance with the Divine in
one style when in fact the Divine dances with us in four different
styles! It’s no wonder we fall over our feet and let go of her hand when
she’s doing a samba and we are still doing a waltz. When we notice
how we change with our phases, we can easily change dance style
along with the Divine Feminine. At the same time, one dance is no
more important than another – she simply enjoys partnering us in all
The Divine Feminine has also given us a beautiful uniquely female
gift – the ability to renew our cyclic relationship with her every
month. When we have followed her down into the deepest levels of
the soul at menstruation, and have sat tired in the darkness of being,
she restores and renews our energies so that we can enter the world
of light once again full of vitality, confidence and strength. Each and
every month the Divine Feminine gives us the opportunity to enjoy
four different experiences of herself and four wonderful relationships
When we go with the flow of our cyclic nature, we gain self-love
by feeling the love of the Divine Feminine. We ourselves become
accepting from feeling the unconditional acceptance she gives us, and
we experience self-empowerment because by dancing with her we
can create together our joys and dreams. The Goddess has given us an
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Using this book – for women with a cycle
This book is a ‘first date’ with the Divine Feminine for each of the four
levels of awareness associated with the phases of your menstrual cycle.
It’s an introduction to an amazing relationship that can support
you, restore and re-energize you, and surround you with love and
peace and a sense of belonging. With the Divine Feminine you can
co-create your heartfelt dreams and desires, and a life of wonder and
oneness. The messages are the beginning of a new relationship with
the Divine – one which is flexible and flowing, and which changes
with your changing perception.
• introduce your different levels of perception and spiritual
connection; • help you to meet the needs and overcome the fears that arise as you
change; • help you to overcome the challenges that can separate you from
your relationship with the Divine Feminine; • remind you of who you truly are and give you permission to express
yourself; • show you the joy of the gifts the Divine Feminine offers you; • show you the beauty and wonder of a changing relationship with
the Divine Feminine; • offer a uniquely female spiritual path as you tread the labyrinth
path each month.
Full of wisdom, love and joy, each message resonates with your own
level of perception and builds a unique, loving and continuously
changing relationship with the Divine Feminine.
You don’t need to change your beliefs or your spiritual practice to
use this book; however, keep an open mind and become more aware
of what supports your connection with the Divine Feminine and what
doesn’t. You may like to try something different in each phase as you
work with the messages – perhaps try a different prayer or mantra,
work with a different Divine expression, or even try something from
a different religion’s approach and apply it to your own. The cultural
conditioning towards a single spiritual or religious approach is
strong, but as cyclic women our spirituality naturally changes as we
tread the labyrinth path downwards and back out again. Sometimes
all it takes is a small change in spiritual approach, language, imagery
or metaphor within a cycle phase to not only rebuild the connection
with the Divine Feminine but to make it deeper and more open to
love, wisdom and understanding.
The messages in this book have been divided according to the four
phases of awareness relating to the four phases of the menstrual cycle.
As you enter a phase, section off the appropriate message pages by using the two
bookmarks that come with the book.
To use the messages you can:
• randomly choose a daily message every day for the duration of the phase;
• choose messages throughout the day in each phase;
• read the messages for the phase in sequence.
Spiritual Messages for Women by Miranda Gray16 The messages were written with the appropriate phase awareness, and so will be in tune with your level of awareness and its associated spirituality for that phase. If you wish, you can select messages from different sections, but you will find that those that match your current phase will have more meaning for you, be more supportive and have a deeper impact. Practical considerations ‘Cycle day one’ is your first day of menstruation. Your menstrual cycle is a natural flow from one phase to another – there are no rigid boundaries – so the cycle days outlined above represent only a general guide. If you feel that you are changing from one level of awareness to
Phase Level of
Body cycle Page
Action Thinking mind 7–13 Pre-ovulation
Heart Feeling mind 14–20
release of egg
Being Soul mind 1–6
another earlier than the cycle days outlined, simply choose messages
from the next section. If your cycle is irregular or longer than 28 days,
you may feel called to use the messages from the different sections
on different days. Trust awareness of your experiences to guide you
towards which sections to read.
If you are on chemical contraception, you may find that your
experiences of the labyrinth path each month may be less intense than
those experienced by women with a natural cycle. Some women are
also more naturally ‘cyclic’ than others and their changes in thinking
and perception can be very impactful on their lives, for example in
experiencing PMS, while other women have little awareness of their
changes. Your cycle, its impact on your perception, your experiences
of it, and your spiritual connection with the Divine Feminine are
unique to you. There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, simply a beautiful
opportunity to rediscover your Self and the Divine Feminine and
their relationship to each other every month.
One final comment before you start to use the messages. Our
experiences of the deeper spiritual side of our cycle’s phases can be
overwhelmed by outside influences. Stress, lack of sleep, travel, and
medication are just some of the things that can have an effect on
our menstrual cycle and therefore on our perception of ourselves,
our lives and our spiritual connection to the Divine Feminine. The
messages in this book are designed to help reconnect you to the
Divine Feminine – so use them to help you to feel her loving support
when the modern world disconnects you from awareness of her
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